My heart aches for you…I lost my first son at an early age,,The nightmare lasted for a long time..I can/t wait to see him again someday…




Q: Is my child in heaven?

A: There’s nothing quite so agonizing as  the death of a child. As someone said, “The death of a child  is like a period placed before the end of a sentence.” It is  ironic that every day of the week, many of us walk out our door  and never look back, figuring everything is forever, including our  children. Often we are too busy to realize that the most precious  things we have also can be the most fleeting.

Those who experience the loss of a child are often filled with  questions. At Back to the Bible we frequently get letters from grieving  parents. The answers they receive from secular sources are often  emotional, but rarely biblical. Sometimes Christians give answers  that are biblical, but not very helpful. This pamphlet is designed  to be both helpful and biblical in answering grieving parents’ questions  about what happened at the death of their little child. Here are  some of the most commonly asked questions.

Are Babies Innocent of Sin?

In the hunt for answers at the loss of a child, many people say  that babies simply cannot understand sin and therefore are innocent.  But that’s not what the Bible says. Understanding sin is not required  for being under the penalty of sin. Two passages in Psalms tell  us about the true nature of children. One says, “Behold, I  was brought forth in iniquity” (Ps. 51:5). The other reads,  “The wicked are estranged from the womb; they go astray as  soon as they are born, speaking lies” (Ps. 58:3). There are  no exceptions. All of us are born with a sin nature; even though  we have not yet done anything wrong, our nature is sinful. Every  baby needs a Savior, just as every adult does.

The Bible addresses a baby’s need through the blood of Christ.  Jesus’ blood was provided for the salvation of mankind–men, women  and children. Until we reject the promise of God’s salvation, the  benefit of His death is still available to us. Even though babies  are not innocent, they have not rejected God’s salvation. The blood  of Jesus Christ is there for them.

Does God Deal with Children the Way He Does with People who  Have Never Heard the Gospel?

Not at all. God has given the heathen a revelation of Himself both  in nature and in their own conscience. Psalm 19:1 says, “The  heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament shows His handiwork.”  Intelligent minds are not without knowl-edge of God’s existence,  even in people groups that have never heard the Gospel explained  to them. Romans 1:18-21 says that God’s wrath is against those who  suppress the truth in unrighteousness, “because what may be  known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them”  (v. 19). God has revealed Himself both in external creation and  in man’s internal conscience. But when the heathen suppress what  they can know about God and choose to worship what they create with  their own hands rather than their Creator, they are without excuse.

But this is not true of a child. Babies do not have minds that  can comprehend nature around them or a conscience within them. We  cannot treat the question, “Is my child in heaven?” the  same way we treat the question, “Is the heathen in heaven?”  Adult men and women have had the opportunity to consider and to  reject the witnesses that God has given of Himself. Babies, on  the other hand, are guilty of having a sin nature, but they have  not weighed the evidence and rejected God. They have not been condemned  by their own actions as the heathen have.

What About the Age of Accountability?

Some people say that there is an age when children become accountable  for their actions. But the Bible does not mention an “age of  accountability.” Children are culpable for sin when they draw  their first breath, but are they accountable at that moment as well?  I don’t think so. We must make a distinction between culpability  (liability for their sin nature) and accountability (liability for  their sinful actions). Isaiah said, “For before the Child shall  know to refuse the evil and choose the good, the land that you dread  will be forsaken by both her kings” (Isa. 7:16). It’s evident  that little children do not have the ability to make moral decisions  and to take responsibility for their sins. Still, they are sinners  and need a Savior. Perhaps the “age of accountability”  should be called “the age of moral awareness.” Children  come to a point where they become morally aware; that is, they understand  what’s right and what’s wrong.

So what happens if your child dies before he is aware of what is  morally right or wrong? He is still guilty of his sins and must  pay the penalty for his sins. That’s where the blood of Jesus Christ  comes in. Young children have not rejected the blood of Jesus as  the heathen have. It is there for them, covering their sins, washing  them clean, even though they have not had the ability to exercise  faith in Jesus, which is required for the salvation of men and women  who understand the consequences of their sin. A child’s lack of  understanding doesn’t deter the power of Jesus’ blood. Only rejecting  the blood deters its power, and babies haven’t done that.

Has God Chosen My Child?

If your child dies and goes to heaven, is that evidence that God  loves your child and has elected him to salvation? I think that  is a valid conclusion. Ephesians 1:4 says that we are chosen “in  Him before the foundation of the world.” Babies as well as  adult believers are chosen in Him before the world began. If they  die before they can understand and reject the Gospel, that doesn’t  change God’s choice. They are as much a part of God’s family as  adults drawn to faith by the Holy Spirit. The blood of Jesus Christ  has covered them and washed away their sins, just as it has ours.  Just because babies cannot make a decision for God does not prohibit  Him from making a decision for them.

What Will My Little One Be Like in Heaven?

Will infants and young children be infants and young children for  all of eternity? I don’t think so. The Bible doesn’t say for sure,  but it does say that when we go to heaven we enjoy privileges that  require adult minds, such as praising and glorifying God in meaningful  service to Him. J. Vernon McGee said it this way: “I believe  with all my heart that God will raise the little ones such that  the mother’s arms who have ached for them will have the opportunity  of holding them. The father’s hand which never held the little hand  will be given the privilege. I believe that little ones will grow  up in heaven in the care of their earthly parents if they are saved.”  There is no biblical proof for this one way or the other, but it  seems logical that babies will not have to endure eternal infancy.  If babies cannot fully enjoy this life, how could we expect them  to fully enjoy eternal life with God?

Will I Join My Child Some Day?

Have you grieved the loss of a child? If so, take heart from the  Bible. David grieved the loss of his newborn son. He pondered, “Can  I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return  to me” (2 Sam. 12:23). Your child was not innocent, because  no innocent child can be born from two sinful parents (Job 14:4).  But I believe your child is in heaven–not because he or she was  baptized, but because your child was washed clean by the blood of  Jesus. Christ’s death made it possible for the salvation of all  mankind, even newborn babies. Your child is in heaven!

The more difficult question is, “Will you join your little  one in heaven some day?” Your baby or child could not make  a decision to trust Christ’s death for the payment of his sin. But  as a morally responsible adult, you must make a decision. The children  of born-again parents do not automatically go to heaven; neither  do the parents of children in heaven automatically join them there.  If you want to see your child and enjoy a heavenly reunion, you  must be born again! Acts 16:31 tells you how: “Believe on the  Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved.” Thank God He has  made it possible for you to see your child again some day, if you  have received Jesus Christ as your Savior.

My son has the greatest father in the world,,his name is JESUS

Back to Bible Questions


  1. I lost a son over 40 years ago. He was 18 months old. I believed in God but was not saved at that time, but I knew my son was in heaven. I am saved now and know I will see my son again someday, but most importantly I will see my savior someday. He (Jesus) changed my mourning to gladness. Thanks for the explination of how children will be in heaven. I knew they would be, but hadn’t thought of how before. You make sense on that.

  2. Reblogged this on meanlittleboy2 and commented:

    the nightmare of losing a child!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: